In today's hectic, fast-paced life style, there may seem to be little
time to volunteer as a mentor. However, becoming a mentor to a college
student will prove to be beneficial for both the mentor and the mentee.
There are three stages that are part of mentoring: teaching, coaching
and acting as a friend. As a part of these stages, there are several
steps that can be taken to ensure the experience is empowering to both
the mentor and the mentee.
1. Choose the college student to be mentored. Often the student
will approach the person who she would like to have as a mentor. For
the mentor, the job is easiest if the mentor is involved in higher
education; however, the experience is equally important for all people
involved in mentoring because of the experience brought to the program.
2. Enter the teaching stage of mentoring. In this stage, the
mentor discovers, through discussion and by looking over the student's
written work, the strengths of this student. Whatever may be weak can
also be improved upon through the mentor's advice and through feedback.
As a part of this stage, the student can act as a shadow to the mentor.
By following the mentor and by watching how the mentor writes
correspondence and various papers and reports and the way the mentor
communicates over the phone, in person and via email, the student gains
valuable lessons.
3. Provide exposure to different perspectives on various
issues, and to have discussions based on the material the student is
studying. The student needs to be reminded that questions are essential
to the learning and mentoring process. It should also be stressed that
no question, as long as it is asked respectfully, is off limits.
4. Enter the stage of mentorship. In this stage, the mentor
acts as a coach and, as such, offers encouragement to keep the student
motivated. The mentor also helps the student understand effective ways
to deal with problems and obstacles that may show up. The key here is to
keep the student motivated so that he will not give up on the goal of
achieving the college degree.
5.
Know that the final stage is friendship. The mentor must
remember that, along with being a teacher and a coach, the mentor is
most importantly a friend who is there through thick and thin. The
mentor is the sounding board for anything that bothers or troubles the
student.